Parenting Tips for Fathers

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  • By Sheri Ward
  • 82nd Training Wing Family Advocacy Outreach Manager
SHEPPARD AIR FORCE BASE, Texas --  In recognition of April as Child Abuse Prevention Month, the Family Advocacy Office would like to draw your attention to positive ways of dealing with children. Usually mothers are at the head of this discussion; however, there is an equally important parent, the father.

Fathers have a special place in the lives of children. Children whose fathers take an active part in their daily lives tend to be well adjusted and better equipped for success.

It's not easy being a father, but don't think that fatherhood is any less important than motherhood. Both parents' roles may not always be the same, but the father's interest in his children makes a significant difference.

Fathers should be proud of their responsibilities and efforts. Children don't need perfect fathers; they need caring and involved fathers. Below are several examples given by the National Committee to Prevent Child Abuse to help fathers stay involved with their children.

SHOW THAT YOU CARE
· Give your children hugs and kisses often; children need physical comfort and contact from their fathers.
· Tell them how much they mean to you: "You're really important to me."
· Praise their efforts - teach them the importance of doing their best, especially if they don't succeed.

GIVE GUIDELINES FOR CONDUCT
· Give your children rules and make sure your rules are clear to them; don't say "maybe" when you mean "no."
· Explain your rules; it's important that children understand why they need to follow those rules.
· Use effective discipline to help children develop self-control; set limits and encourage children to feel good about themselves.

COMMUNICATE WITH CARE
· Look directly at your children when they talk to you.
· Gain your children's trust by listening to them when they come to you with a problem. Children will welcome your guidance but are not likely to listen to lectures.
· Be honest with your children; admit your mistakes, and teach your children the importance of taking responsibility and making amends.

BECOME YOUR CHILDREN'S EDUCATOR
· Tell your children that they can come to you with any question; otherwise they may receive inappropriate answers from other people.
· Remember that you are your children's role model; they are looking to you to learn how a responsible and mature adult acts.
· Do household chores with your children; make them feel good about helping you and teach them that fathers also share household duties.
· Encourage your children to think for themselves; guide and help them with their decision process.

Any questions concerning the role of a father as a parent, call 676-2271 or stop by the Family Advocacy Office. We have several classes to help hone old parenting skills or build new ones.

For the new father, our Fatherhood Classes may have the information needed to gain confidence, as well as learn from more seasoned fathers. At times even seasoned fathers find parenting to be a challenge. Remember children do not need a perfect father; they need a caring and involved father.